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Self-care for busy mums (Part 2): How to find time when you think you have none

If the average mum gets 17 minutes of alone time in a day, it’s not surprising that self-care doesn’t get a look in. But there is a way….Here’s how you can find time for

Self-care for busy mums (Part 1): What happens if you ignore it

Self-care has become a buzzword…. We all know we should be practising it, but as busy mums, trying to juggle so many different roles, with an endless to-do list, self-care often gets pushed to

Do you compare and despair? The 5 A’s to help you stop

Do you feel everyone else’s life is better than yours?Do you feel deflated whilst scrolling through social media.Do you feel resentful towards other people’s achievements?This is compare and despair….It’s human nature to compare. We

Which of these Unhelpful Thinking Styles can you relate to?

Do you have a tendency to jump to conclusions or assume the worst possible thing will happen? These are just two of the 10 unhelpful thinking styles that we can develop over the years.

7 Ways to Deal with Empty Nest Syndrome

Your kids have been a huge part of your life for so long and then suddenly they’re gone….For some parents this can be a really challenging time. So if you find yourself struggling with

The Menopause and how counselling can help

Despite the fact that the menopause will affect every single woman, it is still a taboo topic that is not openly discussed and often misunderstood.Whilst some women will sail through it, for others it

Self-care for busy mums (Part 2): How to find time when you think you have none

If the average mum gets 17 minutes of alone time in a day, it’s not surprising that self-care doesn’t get a look in. But there is a way….Here’s how you can find time for self-care when you think you have none.As I mentioned in my previous blog (Self-care for busy mums: What happens if you

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December 14, 2020 0

Self-care for busy mums (Part 1): What happens if you ignore it

Self-care has become a buzzword…. We all know we should be practising it, but as busy mums, trying to juggle so many different roles, with an endless to-do list, self-care often gets pushed to the bottom of the list. But what happens if you continue to ignore it?Firstly, why do mums ignore self-care?Two of the reasons

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December 14, 2020 0

Do you compare and despair? The 5 A’s to help you stop

Do you feel everyone else’s life is better than yours?Do you feel deflated whilst scrolling through social media.Do you feel resentful towards other people’s achievements?This is compare and despair….It’s human nature to compare. We all do it. And as motherhood doesn’t come with a manual, it’s understandable that we look at other mums to see

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December 11, 2020 0

Which of these Unhelpful Thinking Styles can you relate to?

Do you have a tendency to jump to conclusions or assume the worst possible thing will happen? These are just two of the 10 unhelpful thinking styles that we can develop over the years. And as the term suggests, these thinking styles are very “unhelpful,” often holding us back in our daily lives and causing

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September 22, 2020 0

7 Ways to Deal with Empty Nest Syndrome

Your kids have been a huge part of your life for so long and then suddenly they’re gone….For some parents this can be a really challenging time. So if you find yourself struggling with empty nest syndrome, here are some tips on how to deal with it.But firstly, here are some of the signs to

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August 26, 2020 0

The Menopause and how counselling can help

Despite the fact that the menopause will affect every single woman, it is still a taboo topic that is not openly discussed and often misunderstood.Whilst some women will sail through it, for others it can be a really debilitating experience impacting their personal, family and work life.But you don’t need to struggle alone, counselling can

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July 27, 2020 1

Mind reading: 5 steps to help you stop worrying about what people think of you

It is quite normal to second-guess what other people are thinking. However, when most of these guesses are negative, mind reading can cause a great deal of emotional distress and can affect your mental wellbeing, as well as being utterly exhausting!!But the truth is that other people don’t care nearly as much as you think they

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June 24, 2020 0

How to say “No” to your kids without feeling guilty

Does this sound familiar?Your child asks for something and you say “no.” This is followed by a number of responses from crying, begging, arguing, following you around and perhaps even becoming verbally or physically abusive. They may protest that ‘It’s not fair!’ ‘You’re so mean!’ and the ultimate ‘I hate you!’To endure this kind of

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May 7, 2020 0

6 Tips on how to deal with mum guilt

Motherhood and guilt seem to go hand in hand…On a daily basis we are presented with challenges and decisions that need to be made. And as caring mums we are constantly worrying whether we have done or said the ‘right’ thing. So mum guilt can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted….So here are 6 tips on

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January 27, 2020 0

Self-care for busy mums (Part 2): How to find time when you think you have none

If the average mum gets 17 minutes of alone time in a day, it’s not surprising that self-care doesn’t get a look in. But there is a way….Here’s how you can find time for self-care when you think you have none.As I mentioned in my previous blog (Self-care for busy mums: What happens if you

Read More
vaultwebsites December 14, 2020 0

Self-care for busy mums (Part 1): What happens if you ignore it

Self-care has become a buzzword…. We all know we should be practising it, but as busy mums, trying to juggle so many different roles, with an endless to-do list, self-care often gets pushed to the bottom of the list. But what happens if you continue to ignore it?Firstly, why do mums ignore self-care?Two of the reasons

Read More
vaultwebsites December 14, 2020 0

Do you compare and despair? The 5 A’s to help you stop

Do you feel everyone else’s life is better than yours?Do you feel deflated whilst scrolling through social media.Do you feel resentful towards other people’s achievements?This is compare and despair….It’s human nature to compare. We all do it. And as motherhood doesn’t come with a manual, it’s understandable that we look at other mums to see

Read More
vaultwebsites December 11, 2020 0

Which of these Unhelpful Thinking Styles can you relate to?

Do you have a tendency to jump to conclusions or assume the worst possible thing will happen? These are just two of the 10 unhelpful thinking styles that we can develop over the years. And as the term suggests, these thinking styles are very “unhelpful,” often holding us back in our daily lives and causing

Read More
vaultwebsites September 22, 2020 0

7 Ways to Deal with Empty Nest Syndrome

Your kids have been a huge part of your life for so long and then suddenly they’re gone….For some parents this can be a really challenging time. So if you find yourself struggling with empty nest syndrome, here are some tips on how to deal with it.But firstly, here are some of the signs to

Read More
vaultwebsites August 26, 2020 0

The Menopause and how counselling can help

Despite the fact that the menopause will affect every single woman, it is still a taboo topic that is not openly discussed and often misunderstood.Whilst some women will sail through it, for others it can be a really debilitating experience impacting their personal, family and work life.But you don’t need to struggle alone, counselling can

Read More
demowebsites July 27, 2020 1

Mind reading: 5 steps to help you stop worrying about what people think of you

It is quite normal to second-guess what other people are thinking. However, when most of these guesses are negative, mind reading can cause a great deal of emotional distress and can affect your mental wellbeing, as well as being utterly exhausting!!But the truth is that other people don’t care nearly as much as you think they

Read More
vaultwebsites June 24, 2020 0

How to say “No” to your kids without feeling guilty

Does this sound familiar?Your child asks for something and you say “no.” This is followed by a number of responses from crying, begging, arguing, following you around and perhaps even becoming verbally or physically abusive. They may protest that ‘It’s not fair!’ ‘You’re so mean!’ and the ultimate ‘I hate you!’To endure this kind of

Read More
vaultwebsites May 7, 2020 0

6 Tips on how to deal with mum guilt

Motherhood and guilt seem to go hand in hand…On a daily basis we are presented with challenges and decisions that need to be made. And as caring mums we are constantly worrying whether we have done or said the ‘right’ thing. So mum guilt can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted….So here are 6 tips on

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vaultwebsites January 27, 2020 0

About me

My name is Nabeelah Khan-Cheema and I’m a counsellor and psychotherapist. However, before I became a therapist I worked as an Orthoptist (eyes) in the NHS, for over 30 years. So, how did I get from Orthoptics to a career in counselling? Read More…