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Mind reading: 5 steps to help you stop worrying about what people think of you
It is quite normal to second-guess what other people are thinking. However, when most of these guesses are negative, mind reading can cause a great deal of emotional distress and can affect your mental
How to say “No” to your kids without feeling guilty
Does this sound familiar?Your child asks for something and you say “no.” This is followed by a number of responses from crying, begging, arguing, following you around and perhaps even becoming verbally or physically
6 Tips on how to deal with mum guilt
Motherhood and guilt seem to go hand in hand…On a daily basis we are presented with challenges and decisions that need to be made. And as caring mums we are constantly worrying whether we
Self-care for busy mums (Part 2): How to find time when you think you have none
If the average mum gets 17 minutes of alone time in a day, it’s not surprising that self-care doesn’t get a look in. But there is a way….Here’s how you can find time for self-care when you think you have none.As I mentioned in my previous blog (Self-care for busy mums: What happens if you
Self-care for busy mums (Part 1): What happens if you ignore it
Self-care has become a buzzword…. We all know we should be practising it, but as busy mums, trying to juggle so many different roles, with an endless to-do list, self-care often gets pushed to the bottom of the list. But what happens if you continue to ignore it?Firstly, why do mums ignore self-care?Two of the reasons
Do you compare and despair? The 5 A’s to help you stop
Do you feel everyone else’s life is better than yours?Do you feel deflated whilst scrolling through social media?Do you feel resentful towards other people’s achievements?This is compare and despair….It’s human nature to compare. We all do it. And as motherhood doesn’t come with a manual, it’s understandable that we look at other mums to see
Which of these Unhelpful Thinking Styles can you relate to?
Do you have a tendency to jump to conclusions or assume the worst possible thing will happen? These are just two of the 10 unhelpful thinking styles that we can develop over the years. And as the term suggests, these thinking styles are very “unhelpful,” often holding us back in our daily lives and causing
7 Ways to Deal with Empty Nest Syndrome
Your kids have been a huge part of your life for so long and then suddenly they’re gone….For some parents this can be a really challenging time. So if you find yourself struggling with empty nest syndrome, here are some tips on how to deal with it.But firstly, here are some of the signs to
The Menopause and how counselling can help
Despite the fact that the menopause will affect every single woman, it is still a taboo topic that is not openly discussed and often misunderstood.Whilst some women will sail through it, for others it can be a really debilitating experience impacting their personal, family and work life.But you don’t need to struggle alone, counselling can
Mind reading: 5 steps to help you stop worrying about what people think of you
It is quite normal to second-guess what other people are thinking. However, when most of these guesses are negative, mind reading can cause a great deal of emotional distress and can affect your mental wellbeing, as well as being utterly exhausting!!But the truth is that other people don’t care nearly as much as you think they
How to say “No” to your kids without feeling guilty
Does this sound familiar?Your child asks for something and you say “no.” This is followed by a number of responses from crying, begging, arguing, following you around and perhaps even becoming verbally or physically abusive. They may protest that ‘It’s not fair!’ ‘You’re so mean!’ and the ultimate ‘I hate you!’To endure this kind of
6 Tips on how to deal with mum guilt
Motherhood and guilt seem to go hand in hand…On a daily basis we are presented with challenges and decisions that need to be made. And as caring mums we are constantly worrying whether we have done or said the ‘right’ thing. So mum guilt can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted….So here are 6 tips on
Self-care for busy mums (Part 2): How to find time when you think you have none
If the average mum gets 17 minutes of alone time in a day, it’s not surprising that self-care doesn’t get a look in. But there is a way….Here’s how you can find time for self-care when you think you have none.As I mentioned in my previous blog (Self-care for busy mums: What happens if you
Self-care for busy mums (Part 1): What happens if you ignore it
Self-care has become a buzzword…. We all know we should be practising it, but as busy mums, trying to juggle so many different roles, with an endless to-do list, self-care often gets pushed to the bottom of the list. But what happens if you continue to ignore it?Firstly, why do mums ignore self-care?Two of the reasons
Do you compare and despair? The 5 A’s to help you stop
Do you feel everyone else’s life is better than yours?Do you feel deflated whilst scrolling through social media?Do you feel resentful towards other people’s achievements?This is compare and despair….It’s human nature to compare. We all do it. And as motherhood doesn’t come with a manual, it’s understandable that we look at other mums to see
Which of these Unhelpful Thinking Styles can you relate to?
Do you have a tendency to jump to conclusions or assume the worst possible thing will happen? These are just two of the 10 unhelpful thinking styles that we can develop over the years. And as the term suggests, these thinking styles are very “unhelpful,” often holding us back in our daily lives and causing
7 Ways to Deal with Empty Nest Syndrome
Your kids have been a huge part of your life for so long and then suddenly they’re gone….For some parents this can be a really challenging time. So if you find yourself struggling with empty nest syndrome, here are some tips on how to deal with it.But firstly, here are some of the signs to
The Menopause and how counselling can help
Despite the fact that the menopause will affect every single woman, it is still a taboo topic that is not openly discussed and often misunderstood.Whilst some women will sail through it, for others it can be a really debilitating experience impacting their personal, family and work life.But you don’t need to struggle alone, counselling can
Mind reading: 5 steps to help you stop worrying about what people think of you
It is quite normal to second-guess what other people are thinking. However, when most of these guesses are negative, mind reading can cause a great deal of emotional distress and can affect your mental wellbeing, as well as being utterly exhausting!!But the truth is that other people don’t care nearly as much as you think they
How to say “No” to your kids without feeling guilty
Does this sound familiar?Your child asks for something and you say “no.” This is followed by a number of responses from crying, begging, arguing, following you around and perhaps even becoming verbally or physically abusive. They may protest that ‘It’s not fair!’ ‘You’re so mean!’ and the ultimate ‘I hate you!’To endure this kind of
6 Tips on how to deal with mum guilt
Motherhood and guilt seem to go hand in hand…On a daily basis we are presented with challenges and decisions that need to be made. And as caring mums we are constantly worrying whether we have done or said the ‘right’ thing. So mum guilt can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted….So here are 6 tips on
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Self-care for busy mums (Part 1): What happens if you ignore it
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Do you compare and despair? The 5 A’s to help you stop
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Which of these Unhelpful Thinking Styles can you relate to?
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The Menopause and how counselling can help
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About Me
My name is Nabeelah Khan-Cheema and I’m a counsellor and IFS therapist. However, before I became a therapist I worked as an Orthoptist (eyes) in the NHS, for over 30 years. So, how did I get from Orthoptics to a career in counselling? Read More…